Thursday, 28 February 2013

Heal yourself first

We clean our physical body everyday, purifying our soul is important as well.

When we were a child, we did not have wounds. Everything around us was beautiful and we had great trust in humanity. As we grow older, we are left with some scars here and there. Some call those scars experience but to me, true experience is the wounds that we have healed, not the experience that warns you not to trust again, not to believe in love or the world again. 'Older and wiser' does not mean not doing it nor you become more clever as to how to win in the game. 'Older and wiser' means that you still have trust and faith in love or your own beliefs even though you have been hurt before. 'Older and wiser' means that we do not let the past experience influence our own judgement when similar situation rises.  'Older and wiser' means that when you face the same problems again and you make efforts to solve those problems in a fair ground at the same time try to avoid making the same mistakes again. 'Older and wiser' means we have healed from the wounds and become fresh/light again.

In a love relationship, it's very important that both parties have healed from their previous relationships before entering into a new one. If one of the parties or both parties carry their wounds into a new relationship. The relationship will have negative elements such as anger, jealousy, frustration, disappointment, mistrust etc. I have heard people saying that in the last relationship, they had been hurt, this time, they are not going to go that deep in love. They would rather let their love flowing on the surface and they remain careful with the new partner. But is it love? Can we really make a real connection with someone if we shut our heart in a cage? Love is abour trusting and exchanging of heart of both parties. If love cannot float between the two, it's very difficult to make connection and have rea understanding of partner.

In the case of both parties have not healed their wounds and  enter a relationship, blaming and feeling insecure are the products. Some people seek healing and enter a relationship with the one who has healed. Troubles will rise as well because the one who has healed need to reassure and prove again and again to the one who has not healed. Love is about balancing the love energy. The one who always reassure and prove will end up getting drained because the one who has not healed has nothing(no love) to offer because they are careful with their heart.

So, before entering a new relationship. First we need to heal ourselves. Forgiveness is the main element. We have to forgive the partner who has hurt us. We have to forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We have to understand that things happen the way they are meant to happen and blaming others or yourself is not the solution. We have to see the lessons after things end and see what you need to do to learn the lessons. We also need some time alone and not jumping into a new relationship right away to get healing from others. Maybe the lesson is to understand that you are fine even when you are alone. You are fine and do not need others to complete you. Once you understand that, you will not seek things/expect others to complete you. When two lacks are together, it will only form a hole. When two people who are content with themselves alone and be together, their relationship will be full of love and be able to share love with people around them. Only people who are happy with themsleves first will they be happy with their partners.So heal yourself first!

Thursday, 14 February 2013

Love with your heart, not your head

Feel the love by heart for love cannot be measured by the head.

One of the wonderful things of having a soulmate connection is that you can communicate with your soulmate telepathically; one of the worst things of having a soulmate connection is that sometimes you pick up something you might not want to hear from your soulmate or you feel their emotions and take them as your own and that make you confused with your own emotions.

The other day I was surfing the internet and suddenly I heard a voice saying 'She has stopped writing me emails, she doesnt love me anymore.' Immediately I had a feeling that this was sent by my soulmate. I reached for the calendar at once wanting to find out why I would get this message on that date. I looked at the calendar and guess what, it was the date that we met for the last time right after his father's funeral. I guess when he remembered his father, he remembered that was also the date we last saw each other. I was shocked because it's him who cut off contact in the first place and it's not true that I feel nothing for him  anymore. For me, sending emails is not an act of showing someone love anymore. Afterwards I was a bit down because my soulmate is still using his head to measure or get reassurance of love, he is still in his insecure mode and need people to prove love to him. That was what I did before and this time I am not going to prove love anymore for love cannot be proven, love can only be felt by heart. I am determined to break off the unhealthy cycle I was in with him.

When it comes to love, one cannot measure love, one can only feel love by heart. If someone does things out of love for you, you are bound to feel it. If someone does something out of bad intentions, you can feel it too. Sometimes what we see is not what we get. Love cannot be measured, love can only be felt by heart. So we need to stop asking our partner whether he/she loves us or not, feel it and you will know. It's more efficient to feel than to ask because at times people say things against their own will/heart.

Sometimes people choose their partner by looking at their background or outlooks. If they match with their own background or outlook, then they think that would be a good match for them even though their own heart is screaming no. When it comes to love, we have to look beyond the material world/physical world for love does not belong to the material world, love comes from a higher place. Love belongs to the place where there is no time nor limits, the place where things never die and therefore love never dies.

So when it comes to love, dear readers. Feel it by heart, give up measuring love by the analytical brain for love cannot be seen, love can only be felt.

Tuesday, 12 February 2013

More than one soulmate

The one who stays with you in the end is your perfect match made in Heaven!

When we think about soulmate we usually think that soulmate is the one and only that fits perfectly into our life and the one who is meant to be with us forever. In fact, we have more than one soulmate. Soulmate can be your friend, family member, teacher, colleague, and lover. Soulmates are those whom we spent our previous lives with and chose to incarnate in this life with us and bring lessons to us. Soulmate encounter is about learning lessons together because soulmates know when and how to push our buttons.

Usually there are signs to let you know whether one you have met is your soulmate or not. Today I am able to pinpoint the soulmates I have met in previous lives and enter my life in this life time. Whenever I meet a soulmate, the name of a writer Oscar Wilde is present. Sometimes we mention Wilde in our conversation, sometimes his works are discussed, sometimes we found out that we both love Wilde's works, and sometimes Wilde's book just happened to be at the cafe that we were at. And later, we found out more common interests and the conversations just kept going on and on.

So meeting a soulmate does not mean having a boy/girl relationship. Soulmates come to our life to inspire us, to teach us lessons and to help us to grow. There is always a strong bond between you two no matter where you are. It's not uncommon for soulmates to fall in love with each other. If that happens, that is a good thing and wonderful thing. But times one is ready and the other is not or both are not ready. That is the most challenging case for soulmates. When this situation occurs, both need to go their own ways to get rid of their junks and to meet new people in order to learn because if they are together, the unbalanced energy can be distructive. Soulmates' actions mirror each other and it brings conflicts to the self.

If one has reached another level in soul development and the other has not, dont worry, dear reader for the universe/God is always kind enough to send another soulmate to walk the path with us after we have completed part of our lessons. So if we have lost a soulmate or being turned down by a soulmate because of fear of the soulmate, dont despair, we will meet another one later in life. Soulmate might not enter our life right after one's soulmate left but it's all worth the wait. So please dont be in a relationship with anyone for the sake of being in a relationship. Heal yourself first. If we need another person to help us heal, that's not healing, that's dependency which can be dangerous.

We have more than one soulmate indeed. Soulmates play different roles in our life. They can be teachers, family members, colleagues, and friends. One always has at least one soulmate in their life---usually more than one. When your lover is your soulmate, cherish this relationship for it's more challenging and not everyone can recognise a soulmate element in a relationship.

Friday, 1 February 2013

Learning to let go

Letting go of the pearl from the sea is more beautiful than owning it.

Sometimes after doing all we can to maintain a relationship without success or after knowing that you need to separate with your soulmate in order to let each other to learn lessons, it's time to let go. Letting go does not mean we stop caring. Letting go simply mean that you let your soulmate to choose what they want and to choose to learn lessons on their own terms without them following your own rules or your own schedule.

Like the time we encounter the pearl from the sea, we know that the pearl belongs to the sea. It's the pearl's nature to live in the sea. If we take it away from the sea and try to own it, it will not survive. It's not good for the pearl. So we put it back to the sea and let it shine. It does not mean we dont love it anymore. It simply means that we do what is best for the pearl. Loving someone is more or less the same thing. We know that our soulmate has his/her own lessons, we have to let them go/give them freedom to swim in the sea of people in order to learn lessons. We have to let them go in order to let them shine. If one day they choose to come back, it's a bonus. Letting go is one of the highest forms of love. To let go does not mean we are helpless in a situation so we are forced to let go. To let go means that we love unconditionally so we do what is best for our soulmate.

Yes, it's very difficult to let go because we are so used to being with our soulmate. It's because our soulmate shows us what it feels like to be in heaven. But do know that, dear, heaven is within yourself. It's just that our soulmate brings it out in us. We do not own our soulmate. We own happiness for happiness is within ourselves. Letting go is difficult especially when our soulmate leave us without any explanations as to why they have to leave. Our mind just keeps thinking of the 'WHY'. Have I done something wrong? Well, yes or no. Sometimes your soulmate's issues are highlighted by the encounter of you and they cannot handle it, so they have to take a break and learn the lessons. Whether they will come back or not, part of it lies in their hand and part of it lies in the hand of fate. If it's fated, then sure they will come back but whether you two decide to be together or not. It's entirely up to you two. Lady Fate does not force two people to be together. She simply wants you to overcome your issues by bring two people together for a period of time. Of course rewards might come later if you put efforts to work on your issues.

Before we work on our issues, we have to let go and then stop asking the 'WHY'. If you keep asking the 'WHY', it will only stop you from working on your issues. After working on your issues, the 'WHY' is not important anymore. Instead, you will feel grateful that you have met your soulmate and that the meeting in itself is more beautiful than the union. You know that no matter where you are, whether you are with him or not, you love him/her dearly. Loving someone is simple. It does not require the other person to be with you to feel the love. Love is in the universe. To love without owning is the essence of life.

What you have with your soulmate is as precious as the pearl from the sea. Let go of the pearl and let it shine in the sea for pearl belongs to the sea. Let go of your love with your soulmate and send this love to the universe, for the universe needs the unconditional love between you and your soulmate.

Friday, 25 January 2013

soulmate separation and tarot psychic readings

Are tarot or psychic readings the right answers to healing?

Soulmate separation is one of the hardest and the most challenging things for people to go through. You are so sure that you two are soulmates and yet you dont understand why you two need to go to opposite ways. No matter how hard you try, you just dont seem to be able to move on. The worst thing is that sometimes friends may not understand the connection that you have shared with your soulmate and they just treat it as some ordinary relationship and keep telling you things like "he/she is not worth it", "The best is yet to come." "There are a lot of fish in the sea." Those things just wont help because the pull that is in your heart just wont let you go. When we are in this soulmate separation period, we have to understand that there are works for us to do--the inner work. Meeting a soulmate usually triggers our deepest issues and it's a signal from the universe that we have to look deep into these issues and work with them and hopefully come out fresh.

At the beginning, we often overlook the inner issues that have been highlighted by the connection and often seek reassurance. We want people to tell us that some day our soulmate will return to us and we also want to know the time and date of their return. At this point, we will often find fortune tellers or readers to conduct readings for us and to tell us about our future. Many will also jump from readingt to reading and seek comfort. Usually the readings do not help much because they are just quick fixes. After each reading, we will feel released for a few days or a few weeks, then after a while, the old demons just creep in again and we need another reading again. So the cycle goes on and on.

We have to understand that readings will not give us answers. If the readers are good, they will usually tell you the lessons that you have to learn in this connection and you have to work through the lessons. Some readers will tell you whatever you want to juice out all your money. So jumping from one reading to another is dangerous, it can be addictive and it wont be good for your finance.

What are the lessons of my connection? You may ask. Well, seriously you have to look back and find out why this separation gives you so much pain. Is it because you need to learn to deal with rejection? Is it about learning to let go? Are there any wounds that were formed during your childhood? Were there any abusive relationships you had had in your past? Stop asking when he/she will come back to you and start asking what you need to learn. As soon as you find out your own lessons and learn to cope with them, you will find yourself leaving the old behind and your whole life will become lighter than before.

Asking psychics will not make your soulmate come back and often their answers will only feed your ego and make the pain go away temporaryly. To get rid of the pain, you need to work with your issue and understand that pure love does not lead to pain, love is love and without being with your soulmate, the love between you two is still there. We do not need to see it in order to believe it. Your soulmate runs away from you does not mean he/she does not love you. It's just that they have their own issues to work on and you have yours. Often there are reasons for you two to seperate and work on things on your own before you can come together again. Have faith in God/Universe. Listen to your heart and your heart will lead you to healing. Do not use logic, feel things, feel your path and you will meet people who inspire you and lead you to healing.

It's time to stop the readings and start working on issues. Follow your intuition and your heart and you will be led to the path of healing.

Monday, 14 January 2013

Why do we have soulmates?

When you meet a soulmate, it's time to look beyond the pond to seek answers to face your own demons.

When we hear the word "soulmate", the image of a couple holding hands and walking to the path of future happily ever after will come to our mind. If someone tells you that meeting a soulmate is not about being together forever, you might not believe it because that message of being together is what you have been told all these years by online dating sites, media, novels and movies. If you have met your soulmate and you parted, you might automatically think that the one who got away is not your soulmate but your heart tells you that yes, he/she is your soulmate.

What we have to understand is that meeting a soulmate does not mean happily everafter. Meeting a soulmate simply means that we are ready to be awaken and get rid of the old way of thinking in order to walk our spiritual path in this lifetime. Meeting a soulmate also means that we have to experience the essence of love in the purest form without the human understanding of love--which often is need and want. We are educated to want and need love instead of finding love within ourselves and feeling whole without being with anyone but yourself. We are whole all the time. It's just that you need to feel it inside rather than seeking outside for no one in this world is responsible for our wholeness.

If you are not happy after parting with your soulmate or after your soulmate leave you, then you depend on someone else to give you happiness, that's one form of need and want. The pain you feel is the good indicator. We need to understand that love is not about being with your soulmate forever, love is about sharing your wholeness, your happiness with your partner. Love is about sharing your wholeness, NOT about being completed by another.

When we meet a soulmate, that means we need to learn the highest form of love--that is unconditional love. We love whether the soulmate is with us or not.

Sometimes soulmates wake us up and point the directions of solving the issues we have always had. Soulmates highlight our issues and make us face issues that have been buried deep in our subconscious mind. For example, if you are afraid of abandonment, your soulmate will magnify this issue and you have to face it. Pain in our heart is the indicator that we have things to be dealt with.

Soulmates carry a special energy --- that is the powerful love energy that trigers our issues and let us face those demons with love. If we are not blinded by the human definition of love and open to healing, we can get the most out of it and come out to the other side more relaxed and released.

The one who runs away also has demons to deal with. After both of you have dealt with your demons and release from your own pain, if both of you are calm and feel the peace, you might get a second chance. But whether you choose to be together or not, it does not matter anymore as you have learnt the true meaning of love--the unconditional love, the purest form of love. 

So dear readers, now it's time to look deep within yourself and see what the demons are. You have to look beyond the mirror or the reflection of the pond to find the answers. The answers are within yourself.

Love is two individuals sharing the joy of wholeness rather than seeking completion from each other!

Wednesday, 2 January 2013

Have I met my soulmate?

When you gaze into each other's eyes, you see yourself looking back at you.

Have I met my soulmate? Many of you may ask after meeting him/her for the first time and feel something more than just physical attractions. Only your soul knows if he/she is your soulmate because your soul feels things that the eyes cannot see. But why am I having doubts if he/she is my soulmate? Well, the human brains/mind needs reassurance and proof. Even your soul has told you that he/she is your soulmate, your mind still wants evidence or something that can be seen. That's ok. At some point, you are bound to know if he/she is your soulmate. There are signs that are sent by your soul to let you know.

The following list can help you identify a soulmate.

--- The first time you meet, you just have inner knowing that this is your soulmate. You feel familiarity between you two. When your eyes meet, neither you nor him/her look away because you are comfortable gazing into each other's eyes.

--- You feel a bit of a pull in your heart sometimes and your soulmate's name comes up in your mind.

--- You feel the freedom of being yourself in front of each other because you are sure that your relationship is based on more than just physical attractions. Even when there are disagreements sometimes, you feel that it's normal and respect him/her. You do not feel the need to change him/her to fit you.

--- A sense of peace comes to you when you are together. When both of you are experiencing silent moments, you do not feel the pressure to find something to talk about to fill the gap, you just relax and enjoy the silent moments together.

--- You have dreams about him/her sometimes. Not those wet dreams. But dreams that carry significant meanings. It's like your soul is trying to convey a message about you two in your dreams.

--- Even before you meet, you are stirred to something that foreshadows the meeting. For example, you suddenly visit the country where your soulmate is living. Or you suddenly are interested in the culture of your soulmate before you meet each other.

--- Your conversations are free floating. You do not need to think hard to come up with a topic in conversations. Conversations just keep going. Sometimes you find out that your interests are similar.

--- Even if he/she is not your type, you are fine with it not because of compromise but because you feel the lightness of the soul/heart when you are together.

--- You kinda sense the future of you two. You know things that are about to happen to him/her before they happen.

There are many more signs to determine if you have met your soulmate. Like I said, only your soul knows if you have met your soulmate. When you do meet one, that means you are ready to face something that your soul prepares for you.

Tuesday, 1 January 2013

About me

Six years ago after meeting one of my soulmates, I knew my life was about to change forever. The energy I felt about the friendship was stronger than I imagined. I felt like the whole world was under my feet whenever we were together. The peacefulness reminded me of how heaven was like and how we were not seperated. Being silence when we were together was never an embarrassment.

At the time when we needed to part, I was devastated. I could sense my heart dropping down to the stomach, feeling the full force of gravity. I could not figure out how I could live without living near him. It's like my happiness depended on him. Why had I not feeling like this before with someone else?

With this question in mind, I started my long journey of searching. On my way, I was lucky enough to meet people who were teachers to me on my spiritual path. Each of their stories reminded me of the true essense of life which was not just about the physical world. No, it never was. It was more than that. We are here to learn lessons and cultivate our souls so that we can go to a higher level one day. Soulmates meeting is the wake up call.

The energy you have with a soulmate is not the same as what you have with someone you know. Your soulmate is not just someone. He/She is a key person in life to help you on your journey of spiritual path. Even though everyone around you thinks you are crazy, no, you are not.

When I was in my lowest point, I got no help because no one seemed to understand the phenomenon---the pull of the heart, the argument beween logic and intuition, etc.
Therefore I hope my experience can shine some lights on your doubt and hopefully ease your pain.